This week our question comes from our reader Jazmine.  I think it is soooo relevant because not only have I done this before, I know a few of girls who are in this position as we speak.

Jazmine Wrote:

I can’t seem to stop looking at my ex’s Facebook pictures and googling him to see what he’s up to.  We broke up over a year ago and it’s like I look to see if something’s bad and then when I do, I get upset. Then I end up looking at old pics of us on my own page and it goes downhill from there.  I even lose hours at work doing this!  I know it’s stupid but I don’t know how to stop!  What can I do??

Dear Jazmine,

This might seem a little harsh, but desperate times call for desperate measures… DELETE HIM!  And when I say delete, I mean erase him from everything, myspace, facebook, twitter, bbm, msn etc etc.  As our lives have become so wrapped up in these digital spaces, we can find ourselves lost in the maze, a maze we control, that we sometimes can’t find out way out of.

Unfortunately, because no one controls our personal forms of communication (ie computer and cell phones) we have to be strong enough to monitor our own behavior.  Jazmine , no one is going to come along and stop you from checking up on your ex, buuut if you don’t stop yourself, you are really only holding yourself back….  The easiest way (and I speak from experience ) is to not allow your self the access by simply removing him from your friend lists.  He’s moved on and you should to!  Always checking up on him can become like torture to your self worth and your spirit. Think of all of the new people and experiences you are not letting into your life by constantly being tied up in the emotions of a relationship that no longer exists.  

I find in times like this, nothing helps more than a little Kelly Clarkson!   Turn it up and shake him off!!

  

Since Youve Been Gone – Kelly Clarkson

What do you guys think?  Do you, or any of your friends have cyber stalking issues?

xoxo,

CoCo